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Pastor splits with religious community
over issue of gay unions
Sunday, January 22, 2006
Rev. Rick Sosbe doesn’t fit the stereotypes many people hold when it comes to a man of God.
The image of most ministers is that of a conservative. Sosbe, pastor of the Metropolitan Community Church of Naples, is politically liberal and gay.
His congregation has about 40 worshippers, most of whom are also gay. They meet at the Unitarian Universalist Church in North Naples.
“We believe in everything the right wing churches believe in,” Sosbe said. “But we’re not narrow-minded and we don’t believe the Bible condemns us.”
With an ongoing push to enact a constitutional amendment to outlaw gay marriage within Florida, Sosbe and other progressive ministers are in an interesting position: Much of the push for the amendment is coming from the religious community.
But Sosbe is not standing with most churches on this issue.
He supports the legalization of gay marriage and is opposed to a constitutional amendment that would ban it.
“Whether you agree with the gay lifestyle is irrelevant,” Sosbe said. “It’s a matter of civil rights.”
Time has almost run out for the Florida amendment.
Monday is the mailing deadline and Feb. 1 is the final legal deadline for signatures. Supporters still are optimistic, but acknowledge they’ll need to generate a lot of signatures in the next few days to have enough to get it onto the ballot.
Opposition to gay marriage has been a cause célèbre among Christian conservatives ever since the Massachusetts Supreme Court ruled the state cannot deny marriage rights to same-sex couples.
Nineteen states already have passed a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage.
Florida has had a law on the books prohibiting people of the same sex from marrying since 1977. But conservatives worry that a court could overturn that law, so they are pushing for amendments to the state and federal constitutions.
Sosbe is part of a group of pastors that dubbed itself the Coalition of Progressive Religious Voices. They are trying to be a counterpoint to conservative religious leaders.
He expects speak out against the amendment if it makes it onto the ballot.
“I don’t know what heterosexual people do behind closed doors and I don’t care,” Sosbe said. “I don’t tell heterosexuals what they can and can’t do.”
All local Metropolitan Community Churches are members of The Universal Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches. This fellowship of churches addresses the spiritual needs of the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community around the world.
The constitutional amendment could end up creating some strange bedfellows. Last summer it appeared that the Lee County NAACP was throwing its support behind the effort to ban gay marriage.
Lee County NAACP President Carletha Griffin sent an e-mail out under the National Association for the Advancement of Colored People name that indicated the organization supports the constitutional amendment. The e-mail asked people to sign the petition to help put it onto the ballot.
Griffin later said that e-mail was a mistake. She declined comment last week when asked about the NAACP stance on the gay marriage amendment.
The national NAACP hasn’t taken a position on gay marriage, although its chairman, Julian Bond, has gone on record as supporting it.
The California NAACP has endorsed same-sex marriage. The Florida NAACP hasn’t taken a stance.
John Stemberger, chairman of Florida4Marriage.org, the group that is pushing for the amendment, said he expects to meet the deadline.
“I am very optimistic,” he said. “The signatures are now coming in droves.”
They have to come in fast to get the more than 600,000 verified signatures required to get it onto the November ballot. As of Jan. 19, about 196,000 signatures had been turned in to the state.
Stemberger said a lot more have been collected and are now being turned in.
“I was talking to one of the people who did the Michigan constitutional amendment (banning gay marriage) and he told me 40 percent of their signatures came in the last week,” Stemberger said. “We’re getting thousands of signatures a day now.”
Most of the signatures are coming from churches that are encouraging their parishioners to support the amendment, Stemberger said.
Jerry Mount of Sales Consultants of Lee County in Fort Myers supports the constitutional amendment. His name and company are listed as supporters on the Florida4Marriage.org Web site.
“I believe that marriage as it was originally designed was supposed to be between a man and a woman,” Mount said. “Recently there has been an effort to redesign this issue.”
Mount said he supports the issue because of his Christian evangelical beliefs.
“It’s a very hotly contested issue right now,” Mount said.
Sosbe will be ready if the issue goes to the voters. But he hopes the effort fails due to a lack of signatures.
“It boils down to education,” Sosbe said when asked how he’d help fight the amendment. “When that happens people understand that this is wrong and unfair.”
A constitutional amendment in Florida must get onto the ballot statewide. It then has to be approved by a majority vote in an election.
The Rev. Kathleen Korb, pastor of the Unitarian Universalist church in North Naples and another member of the Coalition of Progressive Religious Voices, said people sometimes do a double take when she speaks in opposition to the gay marriage amendment. But she believes her actions help defend the sanctity of marriage.
“I support marriage in general, whether it’s gay marriage or heterosexual marriage,” Korb said. “It really bothers me that marriage has become an almost unimportant thing among heterosexuals.”
Her church supports the stand, Korb said.
“I think even people in more conservative congregations believe in what we believe when it comes to the separation of church and state,” Korb said.
But Korb doesn’t deny that it can get tense when dealing with more conservative churches. Her position is in direct contradiction to what many of them believe.
Korb recently got a letter written by the pastor of a conservative church in Collier County. It called for all the pastors to throw their support behind the constitutional amendment.
“I’m about to write back telling him not only am I not going to stand with him, but I’ll be opposing him,” Korb said.
Opponents fear the amendment could cut off other rights for gay couples, such as health-care benefits.
The amendment also would ban civil unions that offer identical rights and benefits as marriage.
Stratton Politzer, South Florida director of Equality Florida, a gay rights organization, believes this is an issue that is losing popular support.
“We had a moment of hysteria in 2004,” Politzer said. “But I think people now understand this hurts families and takes away their rights.”
Stemberger disagrees.
“This is one of the largest citizen initiatives that has ever been done,” he said. “We’re getting support from churches throughout the state.”
Most citizen initiatives have organizations pushing them that spend millions of dollars. This issue is being supported primarily with volunteers who feel passionate about the issue, Stemberger said.

